Philippians 2: 1-11
Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!
Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.
Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain. But even if I am being poured out like a drink offering on the sacrifice and service coming from your faith, I am glad and rejoice with all of you. So you too should be glad and rejoice with me.
Luck does not determine the way a marriage turn out. It takes work to build a good marriage, after all, you get out of something what you put into it. 5 ways to start working on my marriage:
- Be like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.
This means filling each other’s gap, talking through directions and God’s calling together, not betraying one another.
It’s one of the hardest but the greatest things in the world. It builds a bridge and deepens a relationship faster than anything we can ever think of. Be the first to say sorry, be willing to learn, be willing to change first.
- Not looking to your own interests, but to the interests of the others.
Train myself to value Jeremy above myself, like how Christ was obedient to death, and died for our sins even though He was without sin. Value Jeremy’s interests, work, and family. Choose to be Jesus in our quarrels, in our disagreements, in our weaknesses.
- Do not blame. Focus on how I can change myself.
Continue to work out my salvation with fear and trembling. Focus on how I can change to be more christ-like than blaming my husband for things that go wrong in the relationship. Change is a process. It is not perfection. But with the willingness to change, God can work in me and he will grow me and change our marriage through me. God lives in me and he hears me when I call unto His name. Focus on my salvation and God will do the rest. If I focus on the blame game and harp on what my husband has to do, I may neglect my own growth.
- Do everything without grumbling or arguing.
God honours gratitude. An attitude of gratitude is refreshing. Be thankful for everything in my relationship, and be careful of the times when I talk ‘bad’ about my husband. In this relationship, I need to honour him and complaining about him to others does not honour him. Rather than focusing on his weaknesses, focus on the change I need to make on myself.